did i reshare a baby photo of him on my (very private, family only) facebook today? Maybe!! But I logged right out again LOL. Guilt did me in!!! Baby steps.
I removed all those apps on jan 19th. Haven’t regretted a minute. I do look at substack and am on bluesky, which so far is a a good place to be with like minded and intelligent people and an ok place to get my news because I’ve stopped reading/looking at msm news. I have LOVED the time I have back in my life and also not having the vitriol of those socials.
You just posted this like 20 minutes ago. I deleted the Substack app a couple of weeks ago because I found I was just scrolling here like those other places. I reinstalled simply so I could comment. Addictions die hard.
I left the other places the day after the election. I have had some of the same thoughts, mine mostly being “how will they know when Hazel dies?” (because I think about that particular life thing a lil too much). And like you, I find myself realizing it doesn’t matter. The people who I really want to know about my life stuff know.
I don’t miss it. I realize how much brain space it took up. How some days I was itching with irritation. And I’m gonna delete this app again as soon as I post this. I check on my computer like 1x a week. That’s plenty. YouTube on the other hand. Eeesh.
i find myself mindlessly scrolling on blue sky too. the positive is i am not bombarded by ads and videos. my brain actually feels ...better? idk i have also been taking walks on my breaks at work!
Love it. Yeah. Im taking a break too. Ive been an instagram hummingbird for the last year. Such a brain drain. Feels good to ease off. Noticing I miss some clever people’s hot takes on the current shit show, but who cares if Im 8 hours behind the cool kids..
OMG YES - MIC DROP, SHUT THE DOOR, DO A SPIN AND FUCK IT ALL!!! The best, most human, positive, focused writing I've read since douchebag took office. All the love from one mom who doesn't look old enough to have a 24-year-old..... to another.
Deleting Instagram also for similar reasons, and it's surprising how much mental space was taken up with an app full of people I hardly talk to irl. It has been a good way to share with friends who I actually talk to, but I guess I'll just have to text them now lol
Great question… when I think of the people I followed, I pretty much text or see them pretty regularly. But I know I’m going to need to make more of an effort for those who I’m not as close with. Though it begs the question…if I am not that close to them, do I need to?? Idk!
Thank you saying the thing so many won’t say - how posting about our kids on social is really about us not them. {*exhale*}
did i reshare a baby photo of him on my (very private, family only) facebook today? Maybe!! But I logged right out again LOL. Guilt did me in!!! Baby steps.
HA! It's so hard NOT to. I GET IT.
I removed all those apps on jan 19th. Haven’t regretted a minute. I do look at substack and am on bluesky, which so far is a a good place to be with like minded and intelligent people and an ok place to get my news because I’ve stopped reading/looking at msm news. I have LOVED the time I have back in my life and also not having the vitriol of those socials.
I forgot about Bluesky. You reminded me I opened an account at some point. Ha!
A lot of us have moved away from nazi Twitter to the Blue skies!
Relatable. Bluesky isn’t doing it for me. Substack has been my favorite. 2nd to my new NYT subscription
i am on blue sky and really enjoying it!
You just posted this like 20 minutes ago. I deleted the Substack app a couple of weeks ago because I found I was just scrolling here like those other places. I reinstalled simply so I could comment. Addictions die hard.
I left the other places the day after the election. I have had some of the same thoughts, mine mostly being “how will they know when Hazel dies?” (because I think about that particular life thing a lil too much). And like you, I find myself realizing it doesn’t matter. The people who I really want to know about my life stuff know.
I don’t miss it. I realize how much brain space it took up. How some days I was itching with irritation. And I’m gonna delete this app again as soon as I post this. I check on my computer like 1x a week. That’s plenty. YouTube on the other hand. Eeesh.
You’ve got this!
You've got this! Please don't re-install the app to see this comment, tee hee!
i find myself mindlessly scrolling on blue sky too. the positive is i am not bombarded by ads and videos. my brain actually feels ...better? idk i have also been taking walks on my breaks at work!
Love it. Yeah. Im taking a break too. Ive been an instagram hummingbird for the last year. Such a brain drain. Feels good to ease off. Noticing I miss some clever people’s hot takes on the current shit show, but who cares if Im 8 hours behind the cool kids..
totally. I've had a few things I've felt like I wanted to share, and then I'm like...oh, 500 other people will share this, it's ok.
OMG YES - MIC DROP, SHUT THE DOOR, DO A SPIN AND FUCK IT ALL!!! The best, most human, positive, focused writing I've read since douchebag took office. All the love from one mom who doesn't look old enough to have a 24-year-old..... to another.
hahahaha!! Do a spin and fuck it all :) Love it.
Deleting Instagram also for similar reasons, and it's surprising how much mental space was taken up with an app full of people I hardly talk to irl. It has been a good way to share with friends who I actually talk to, but I guess I'll just have to text them now lol
Right? That was one of my excuses, "what about so and so's kid updates?" and um, I could just, like, text them!
As long as you text me snarky shit, good for you! It's about me, ok?
I have a deep well of snark to pull from.
Saaaaaame. I’ve been off over 2 weeks and don’t miss a thing. Glad I’ll still catch you here❤️
I really needed to read this — sooo relatable. How are you managing connections off the apps? There are a handful of people I DM regularly.
Great question… when I think of the people I followed, I pretty much text or see them pretty regularly. But I know I’m going to need to make more of an effort for those who I’m not as close with. Though it begs the question…if I am not that close to them, do I need to?? Idk!
Excellent point. It’s an opportunity to take a good look at which friendships to pursue offline.